How to not feel sad?

I don’t know :)

But there’s something I know for sure

Sadness is a part of life.

Without sadness, there is no happiness.

Just like without darkness we can’t see the shining stars.

So another question I’d suggest asking is

How to deal with sadness…

I tried to find the answer to that question and came up with this so-called

A toxic relationship loop, starting from

We judge people (about the way they look, talk, act, think)

➡️ We think bad about them (disrespect)

➡️ We don’t like them

➡️ They don’t like us (back)

Under the Himalayas, between India and China, it’s peaceful Bhutan, where

1/ Tobacco is banned

2/ The government focus on measuring GNH — Gross National Happiness instead of GDP — Gross National Production

3/ Free health care and free education

4/ The only carbon-negative country in the world (it absorbs…

Why we know we should change, can change, but we don’t change

We all know what is good for us.

What is healthy & whatnot.

What we should do & what we should stop doing.

But we don’t change our behavior for the things we know are better.

Why? One answer is:


Our brain refuses things that are hard, complicated &…

Life is wonderful or miserable

Depending a lot on what you decide to do & how you decide to feel each day

In fact, every morning when the alarm rings, we already have two decisions to make

. Hit snooze & go back to sleep, or

. Wake up and…

Life feels much better with gratitude, let me explain :)

If you’re reading this right now, 99% you are

  • Still breathing fine (independently, not with an oxygen respirator)
  • Waking up every day on your comfy bed
  • Having electricity for your phones, water from your sink (hot or cold as you wish), so many clothes in closets that may take…

Things don’t go as planned, people behave badly, negative incidents break out,…

Bad things happen, which ruins our day

And we feel sad, disappointed, hopeless, tired, etc.

That’s the sign when we rely too much on the outside world.

I’m lucky to learn from a wise person

To be comfortable…

What is worse than losing money

We could go mad when losing (big) money.

We consider carefully before every purchasing decision.

We keep our money safe and only trade it for some benefits in return.

If we have that attitude and spend our time the same way we use our money,

I think it would make…

Kindness could also be a double-edged sword.

A hidden threat of being (too) nice is falling into the so-called people-pleasing trap.

Here is how to differentiate:

. Kind person: do things that make no harm to others.

. People pleaser: do things that make others satisfied even if it causes…

Time for bed, it’s a long day, you look at your todo list and guess what

So many left to be done.

What would you feel?

Guilty, frustrated, unproductive, stressful, ashamed?

Here’s the fact: you will hardly get all your work done!

Not-yet-completed is not inefficiency; it’s progress.

Once you…

Ha Nguyen

A child advocate & entrepreneur in Helsinki who cares about education, fairness, the environment & sustainability. Stay in touch on IG: @a.second.of.happiness

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