“People who can’t control themselves try to control others”

Ha Nguyen
1 min readMay 24, 2020

“You don’t spend enough time, take enough care of me.”

“You must be obedient and follow my advice for your own good”

Those can be some signals of people with manipulative, controlling behaviors.

Being around them could be emotionally draining.

They demand things from other people that might be beyond their responsibilities

For many reasons: insecurity, anxieties, low self-esteem, etc.

You and I, we can also easily fall into this trap to become “they”, especially when fear grips us and we can’t tolerate uncertainty anymore.

One way to prevent this from happening is keeping in mind that

Controlling others is never a solution

Because the real problem is not from outside, it’s within us.



Ha Nguyen

A child advocate & entrepreneur in Helsinki who cares about education, fairness, the environment & sustainability. Stay in touch on IG: @a.second.of.happiness