“People who can’t control themselves try to control others”

“You don’t spend enough time, take enough care of me.”

“You must be obedient and follow my advice for your own good”

Those can be some signals of people with manipulative, controlling behaviors.

Being around them could be emotionally draining.

They demand things from other people that might be beyond their responsibilities

For many reasons: insecurity, anxieties, low self-esteem, etc.